Over the past 2 1/2 years much has been said about the support of my friends, family, faith and God but there is someone to whom I owe so much and couldn’t get through each day without, my husband Marty. Let’s go back to September 2013 when Marty and our granddaughter Hannah were going out for their monthly Pappy/Hannah Sunday breakfast. Marty was driving when Hannah noticed a problem, he was having a stroke and thanks to her calm head she was able to get him home and call for EMT’s. Most of you know that there is a 20 year age difference between Marty and I so I have always been prepared to care for him “til death due us part” so as Hannah and I sat in the hospital my mind began to process the future. God blessed Marty and the stroke was not as severe as it could have been, he can walk and care for his basic needs, some brain function has been lost (the dots don’t always connect) but he can do so much for himself.
Over the past 6 months everything about my capabilities has changed and slowed down, at first I tried to play it off because every time Marty saw me struggle he would break down and cry. How do you convince someone that you’re the same person when you go from being Speedy Gonzales to Slew Toe in a few months?, the man had a stroke he didn’t lose his sight!! Anyway, Marty has always helped with anything I need but now it seems he’s doing so much more. Every day from front to back the floors are cleaned, dishes done, yard kept up and on and on. I’ve always been a little anal about things being kept tidy and in their place and Marty makes a point of keeping things the way I always tried to, it matters to me so it matters to him. Lately though I look at him and all I see is a tiredness and a constant sadness that I have no power to erase from this sweet mans face. I have been so blessed by God to have this man in my life for 36 years and now to live and breath the love he has for me as he cares for my needs while trying to accept the fact that most likely (God has the final say) within the next few months he will have to say goodbye to his “Princess” forever.
1 Peter 3:7
“Likewise, ye husbands, dwell with them according with knowledge, giving honor unto the wife, as unto the weaker vessel, and as being heirs together of.”
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